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I need someone to tell me how it is possible that after signing a no corporal punishment form that my 8 year old daughter is taken into a bathroom by a male PE teacher and paddled once? It took my wife and I over an hour to calm her ...However, this is a standard punishment for children and raises an interesting question as to its basis for a criminal charge. Yet, even spanking can go too far and become abuse a�� though spanking with a paddle was found by the Minnesota ...Or maybe, just maybe, the parents could have been responsible and not let their daughter bring the phone to school where I'm sure the policy is "no phones". Annoying that they arrested her. WTF? She's 14 and she's texting. ... When I went to public school--they used corporal punishment. I don't recall being flogged, but I DO recall Dean Withems paddle in 7th grade! February 18, 2009 8:39 PM A� deb said... I think that involved parents are the key to these types of problems ...I might have been paddled once. At home, however, my parents NEVER once hit or spanked me from the time I can remember. So, I am living proof that it is not necessary to use corporal punishment. I agree that parenting is important, ... Gretchen Day-Bryant has a son in high school and a daughter in middle school. She's lived to tell about the struggles of juggling little kids and work... < more > Joy Oglesby has an infant daughter and a sister 13 years her junior, ...He is still experimenting with implements so I got a taste or the belt, brush, crop and paddle. I DID cry. Now, granted, we are new to this, but I didn't have the same release, or feeling of adoration afterwards. While he was scolding me I felt like he was ... My HOH says that I am only submitting when I am in the mood... after all of last night, when my daughter woke up during the night, I was lazy and made my HOH get up to check on her. I ended up getting up as well, ...Riverview, Florida (The Weekly Vice) - Jose Ajpacaja-Ajiataz, a 34-year-old Florida man was arrested Wednesday after he beat his daughter with a belt and then shaved off her hair as punishment. According to the Hernando County Sheriff's Office, ... We aren't talking about a paddle. He's using a leather belt. Buckles and all I'd bet. Then he shaves her head. Young women usually identify long hair with being female. A woman's hair is a major part of her identity. ...I went to wal-mart and bought a can of formula because my daughter had jaundice so bad I was having all these issues breastfeeding (due to her being very so lathargic). Anyways, I think my daughter was about 2-3 weeks old at the time. ... Study after study has shown that physical punishment simply does not have the desired results. We should focus on educating parents about the benefits of positive reinforcement (which actually works!). Besides, if you smack your TWO YEAR ...I was spanked with a willow switch, paddled with a paddle (bought from Six Flags of all places), my mouth was washed out with soap and I turned out to be a better person because of it. Washing a child's mouth out with soap may by today's standards be 'cruel and unusual punishment' but so is the media bbmbarding my children with curse words on 'family' shows and the vulgarity of some cartoons that when I was kid was censored. Chewing on soap for 10 minutes was a bit ...BTW, I have no problem with corporal punishment for my own children if/when they misbehaved in school. I paddled my own daughter (in my class, after talking to the principal) for grabbing a boy who was bothering her by the throat. ...At Dearborn's Adams Junior High it was the a�?Shader Persuadera�?, a wooden paddle that science teacher Shader wasn't afraid to use on his 7th grade students. Another gym teacher at Adams would use the cord of his whistle on a wet bathing suit ... Married, with an 8-month-old daughter, he taught agriculture to high-school students for six years but had no prior administrative experience. He studied animal science at Clemson, served as state president of the Future Farmers of ...
I babysit for a couple, and I have been friends with them for nearly a decade. They have a 12 year-old daughter, and though rare she still is subjected to spanking via a wooden paddle if she acts up. I am not completely against spanking younger children but is there anything to really be gained by this form of old fashioned discipline on a 12 year-old? Her mother threatened to paddle her for coming home late and not informing her parents that she went to the pool instead of to a friend's house. By coming home late the daughter kept the parents from leaving on time and as a result the mother was not very happy. I realize the parents have the right to be upset but do you all think paddling for this would be a fair offense? They ended up not spanking her, but that doesn't mean they won't resort to that kind of discipline in the future. I know they love their daughter, but in this day and age isn't taking away her phone, ipod, etc a more effective and longer lasting punishment? What do you all think?


Conservatives, Do You Agree With My Top10 Wishlist?
Hypothetical....

There's a huge conservative resurgence in this country. Strong right-wing conservatives win a supermajority in both the house and senate, and win the presidency.

We have carte-blanche...you can pass virtually anything you want, and let's assume all the conservatives elected are hardcore conservatives, not these namby-pamby "moderate" conservatives (those ones might as well call themselves "half-commies")

Ok...would you support the following bills being passed if congress got the opportunity....

1.- A bill outlawing the practice of Islamic religion in the United States on the grounds of national security considering virtually all murderous terrorism in our era on this planet stem from radical clerics and leaders of the Muslim "religion".

2.- Criminalize anyone identifying themselves as a Socialist (as one Vermont senator currently does), and write a constitutional amendment to protect american liberty in case of a socialist coup like we're experiencing now, stating no law shall be passed nationalizing any currently privatized realm of industry, whether it's healthcare, autos, banks, or otherwise.

3.Congressional approval to immediately bomb and take out all nuclear fission capacities of the countries of Iran and North Korea because we as conservatives are smart enough to realize it's easier to do it now than when they've already built something to fire back at us.

4.- Regarding healthcare? Screw it. I'm a hard working man that makes enough money to insure my family's health, and maybe if these socialists quit handing out free coverage to people too lazy to earn, they'd actually be a plus for our economy instead of a drain.

5.- Round up all known illegal immigrants over 18 and send them back to their countries. Only illegal children with no parents are allowed to stay out of sympathy. All others must go. Sure, I know I know "we can't get them all"....true...but we can get a hell of a lot more than by not trying at all. If we can even capture 20 or 30% of them, that's still a couple million less criminals stealing Americans' jobs than we have now.

6.- A constitutional amendment making abortion illegal in ALL cases.
Yes I know some daughters are raped and blah blah blah. But 99% of abortions are lazy selfish women too irresponsible to face their impending motherhood. Those women belong in jail for 2nd degree murder. Those DOCTORS belong on the electric chair for 1st degree murder since they are the ones that literally kill the baby. And for the other 1%? God has a plan for those kids too.

7.- End affirmative action NOW. It's not my fault some colored kid has a ganbanging dad and a crackwhore mom. Life isn't fair. You don't get to play catch-up by depriving my son who scored a 1300 on his SAT's entry into your university, to make room for Shaniqua and Tokesha because they "from da hood" and scored 850.

8.- I'm against unreasonable censorship, but I'm not against censorship
to maintain order and safety in a society. Not letting people yell "fire" in a crowded theater, is a form of censorship...but it's one we need. Similarly, these lying vile kool aid drinking far left hate mongers like Janine Garafalo, Keith Olberman, Sean Penn, Susan Surandan, etc,
need TAKEN OFF TV AND RADIO. They aren't just "disagreeing" or
"dissenting"...they're willfully ENABLING THE ENEMIES OF THE UNITED STATES by undermining troop morale, spreading lies, giving verbal comfort to the enemy, etc. War is no time to dissent. If you want to dissent, do it WHILE WE'RE DEBATING A WAR. But once your side loses and we're in the war? It's time to either shut your mouth, or find yourself in a prison cell until the war ends so you can't
enable our enemies with your liberal bile.

9.- A bill which protects the rights of all parents and guardians to use reasonable corporal punishment on the kids in their care if they feel it is a neccesary measure for that particular kid. I say this because we're getting to a point in society now where a parent who gives their son or daughter a spanking or paddling for calling their teacher a "*itch" when they get home from school, or as a response to their 10 year old trying to light the neighbor's cat on fire, gets in MORE TROUBLE LEGALLY THAN THE KID COMMITTING THOSE ACTIONS. And I don't mean beating some poor kid senseless 200 times with a belt. But 10 or 15 pops with a hand or paddle on the backside in that 3 to 11 age range where kids take heed of it? I see nothing wrong with that. 40 years ago, about 90% of parents were pro-corporal punishment, and about 90% of kids behaved. Today, only about half of parents are, and only about half of kids behave. You do the math.

10.- Finally, regarding the environment. WE'RE ALL FOR THE ENVIRONMENT. I don't think people should be allowed to dump motor oil in a local stream, or spew cancer causing chemicals out of a smokestack all over a neighborhood.


My daughter started kindergarten this year & her 2nd day of school she received a paddling(corporal punishment is allowed in AR). Well every since she has been adamant about attending. She told me she was nervous & didn't like school.

Her teacher seems over-the-top. She called me yesterday saying my child wasn't herself & had smeared feces all over the restroom. When I arrived I learned she had a little accident & tried to clean it up. The nature of the call seemed as if my child had a psychotic episode or something. I feel the teacher blew it out of proportion....as she has on many occasions punished her entire class for something one child did wrong. She also asked me was my child on any medication(implying something mentally was wrong with her). My daughter is very intelligent, but like any five year old, she will be fidgeting and unfocused(especially when the school setting/nature is all new to them).

Is it me as a parent or should I hold some level of concern about her teaching tactics? I'm leaning towards changing her teacher before the mid-term semester.
For some of ur comments: I don't believe in corporal punishment...but the handbook at Barton(Barton, AR) clearly states if a child does anything that warrants a paddling...she will indeed get that form of punishment UNLESS a parent signs the statement saying their child can not receive corporal punishment. But! that's an automatic 3 day suspension if she doesn't receive a "paddling". Yes it is definitely unfair to parents as well as our children. No child shud be hit with any object in which my child referred to as a "flat bat" b/c she was unaware what she was being hit with (let alone punished for). Kindergarteners are innocent, afraid, & unaware of "adults" expectations of them as learners. She's not a bad child & clearly didn't deserve to be hit the 2nd day of school.


My ex-husband and I have very rarely ever resorted to using any sort of corporal punishment with our children, but our eldest daughter has defied every other means of discipline that we have given her recently, and we are now considering using it on her. She's a very strong-willed, highly tempermental 14-year-old and we've already tried grounding her, revoking privileges, lecturing, positive reinforcement, picking our battles, and even therapy. She's snuck out while grounded, and has refused to talk or eat when things have been taken away. We talked to her pediatrician about this because this is an honor student and JV athlete who never had previous discipline problems, but there is nothing medically or mentally wrong with her. She's just a teenager. I don't know if getting her to cooperate with giving her a paddling that I would administer privately is even something we could do. Her father remembers being paddled at 15 and how it changed his attitude for the better. I don't know if it could help her or make things worse, and if we are in the wrong to even consider it. Have other parents used corporal punishment on older children and teens?

Please don't bash us in your answers. I'm just getting opinions, and honesty is great but verbal insults are not necessary.
We've already tried grounding many times. It doesn't work with her. We'd never pull her hair or beat her senseless. She's petite for her age (5'4 and about 90 pounds) and I don't think she'd turn around and hit us.
Yes, "Ultimate Nobody" I am referring to spanking her. I just tried to avoid using the word "spank" because I've noticed from previous questions in this section that it draws in a lot of trolls.


My daughter starts middle school next year, and in the packet is a "permission for corporal punishment" form. I am a spanking mother, but I'm undecided on whether or not to let a (female) vice-principal to give her up to 4 swats with a paddle. I don't need to be told spanking is wrong, I just want to hear from anyone who has given such permission, and how it worked out and such.
Er, make that 5th. Forgot to proofread that. Maybe I'm the one that needs paddled. ;)
Just realized I should probably point out that in this case, middle school means 6th grade. She'll turn 11 in a few weeks. I do spank, but not very often, and I actually doubt she'd ever get in that much trouble. But just in case... I'm really conflicted on this one.
Quick not to Belinda: although it's been several years, I *do* know what a school paddle feels like. I know it hurts, but, at the same time, that's kind of the point.


Someone asked a question earlier tonight about punishing a teenage girl for taking her mom's car without permission, and one person answered:

"You have your license so you're at least 16. If you're spanked with a hair brush, I say 16 on each side of your butt. If you bend over for the paddle or the belt, I say 16 with the paddle or 10 with the belt.

If your mom wants it to hurt more, she can have you lower your jeans and/or underwear before the punishment begins."

To me, that's a sadistic, completely inappropriate, perverse punishment, and I can't imagine any CPS agent letting it fly. I'm 17 and I also can't fathom a teenager submitting to such a "punishment." I'm offended just by the suggestion.

Does anyone actually think that sort of punishment is appropriate? Would you do that to your own daughter? If you were a teen, would you actually let your parents do that to you?
The answer was given by a user named "Jeff N," and since I've read several other of his answers where he always advocates spanking, I immediately thought he was a troll with a spanking fetish, and I called him on it. He replied "No fetish. I just remember when a sore butt solved so many problems. Kids had less freedom in those days. Moms and dads were parents in those days."

I don't know what days he was referring to, but I don't think that would have ever been okay. I'm trying to not be offended, but it's hard. I just think an answer suggesting abuse is offensive, and I'm totally creeped out and worried that there could actually be parents out there doing warped things like this to their kids.
Jeff N: Ita��s wonderful that you have fond memories from your childhood, but they are totally irrelevant to this question. I dona��t think what you advocated would have been any more acceptable back in 1969 than it is today, and even if it was, we live in 2009 and time is progressing forward, not backward, so your pontification was rather pointless. The world is diametrically different than it was in the 1970s, and in some ways perhaps it was better back then, but for the most part I believe the progression has been positive. For as much flack as my generation is given, wea��re actually doing better than our predecessors in many ways. There is a record number of us going on to college and pursuing fulfilling professional careers, and thanks to the internet and other technology we are far more aware & involved with the causes of the world. I recently read an article about how teens today are more emphatic, informed and ambitious than their parents were at our age.
Teens mess up now, just as they did when you were a teen, but the answer isna��t a degrading, humiliating punishment. One of the biggest problems today is that too many kids have idle hands, and that has more to do with all the modern-day conveniences that make chores and tasks far easier than they were in the past than a decrease in spankings. That along with larger class sizes, the influence of the media, the advanced technology, terrorism, and so many other variables have a much bigger impact on society than the disciplinary style of its parents. Plus, back when you were a teen the internet with ita��s multitude of perverts and fetish sites did not exist, and a�?spankinga�? had a totally different connotation. Type in a�?spankinga�? on Yahoo and youa��ll come up with far more fetish and porn sites than parenting ones. As I wrote in the original question, and Xpert pointed out in his answer, that user most likely was a troll with a fetish, and you fed right into it with your answer.
Youa��re 54, and with all your life experience ita��s astonishing that you would believe that a mother would instruct her teenage daughter to solicit advice from strangers on the internet on how she should be spanked and how many swats she deserved, as the asker claimed. Ia��d hoped you were also a troll with a fetish and not a sincere parent actually suggesting that physical and sexual assault be dressed up as discipline, and when you said that you didna��t have a fetish, that you were being honest, I felt ill.

THANKS TO EVERYONE ELSE WHO ANSWERED.


My daughter who is in kindergarten took a couple pieces of candy from the teachers desk. She didn't ask for it so the school considers it stealing and in all reality I guess it is. I refused to let the paddle her with their "school regulated" paddle. (2 inch board). Told them that I would spank her for it if they brought her to the office and they refused to let me. Said that they couldn't allow that, it was considered abuse if I did it apparently. But what gives the priciple(a perfect stranger) the right to do so? After arguing about it they decided that she had to do 3 days of in school suspension, sit in the office all day, eat her lunch there and had absolutely no contact with other children or any activity. I really think this punishment was quite harsh for a 6 year old who took candy because she was hungry. The Kindergarten classes at our school eat lunch at 10:20 a.m. No snack offered in the afternoon unless brought from home and it has to be healthy foods. In that case, candy should not be lying around a classroom of tempted hungry 6 year olds. Does anyone agree with me about this? How would you handle it?


I have a friend who has an eleven year old daughter.. we go over to their house and my husband and her husband shoot pool. We go over a few times a month. Well, last week we were there and her daughter stole sixty dollars out of my purse. She got caught in the act.
Now, my friend is a religious and firmly believes in spanking as punishment. She made her daughter come to me and apologize, and then my friend went into the kitchen and got a paddle. She took her daughter to the other room and spanked her with the paddle. I could hear the paddle hitting off her booty. OUCH!! She spanked her five or six times.
I do not know where I stand on this. I believe in spanking as well. I do not even think using a paddle is abuse, but I think eleven may be a little old. However, what she did was bad and had to be nipped in the bud.
Was she too old for this type of punishment? Please do not bash my friend because it is her choice in the end, this was not abuse. I want opinions on is she was too old to be spanked, not whether it was abuse or not. I already know that


Today, my 12 yr old daughter brought home a form that needed to be signed by me asking for permission for corperal punishment. The children get 5 mins between 7 classes to go to the bathroom and go to their locker and get to class. I understand that being on time is important but do you think they should get spanked for the first offense? They are not allowed at any other times to go to the bathroom. My 3rd grader's class is only allowed to go to the bathroom 2 times a day and school is from 8:20 to 3:25. They also get paddled for tardies. There are no warnings. I'm not saying children should be late for school or class but I do think they should be allowed 2 tardies before they are punished. Would you let the school spank your child?
Hey, I'm all for punishment when needed and groundment but I don't think paddeling is the answer for 1 tardy.


My niece, Brittany is my sisters daughter. She is completely out of line does drugs, drinks, gets herself in bad situations...... My sister is having nervous break downs and I have custody of her. I laid 3 firm rules down:

no dating
no drugs, smoking, drinking, etc..
no staying out past 9

Yesterday at one o clock worried I drove around and she was asleep in a guys car! I woke her up and I could just smell the beer on her. All the guy said "If I did that, my parents would paddle me into a coma." And she said "My aunt would never do that, she's to much of a wimp." I told her there would be punishment but I haven't decided yet. She broke all of my rules in one night! Her parents punishment that they tried and I tried was taking stuff away from her. It has never worked.


What would be a god punishment? Here are all the issues:

1. broke my rule of no drugs
2. broke my rule of no dating
3. broke my rule of staying out past 9
4. called me a wimp
5. well, there has to be more in there
oh yeah, she's 15


Right now I am debating on schools for my daughter I have given up on public school after the poo her school tried to pull and considering sending her to a private school. My daughter is 9 and there are 2 schools she could apply for, but when I was looking over policies I noticed one school said they still use the paddle. I am not quite sure if I want that they say there is a slip I could sign which would exempt her, but I am not sure I could send her to a school that did that; but on the other her hand the public school and some discipline problems and I bet the kids are more behaved or the class is better controlled how about that. Would you send your kid to a school that still practiced cp?


I have been going through a stealing problem with my six year old. I think we have got that nipped in the bud. But today, my eight year old daughter stole a pair of sunglasses in wal mart, becasue I would not get them for her. She stole once when she was six, and we made her give back the "item" then and admit what she did. She was promised a spanking if she ever did it again. So, I made her tell her father what she did. We have a paddle that has never been used, and my husband used it today. He gave her five hard swats to her clothed bottom, because we thought this deserved a big punishment, and we think she is too old to have to take her pants down. Was this too severe, she cried a lot, but said it did not hurt that much? She said she was just sorry she did it? Should we have gone easier on her?
She was not beaten by any means. I do not think the spanking even hurt that much, I think she was crying becasue she knew she had dissapointed us


she was in her cheerleader uniform and her skirt was raised! she got 10 swats for skipping class, smoking, and smarting her mouth. i did sign the corporal punishment papers, but did not know she would have to raise her skirt. she can be bratty and has been spanked many times.


We (single mom and kids) moved from Ohio to Mississippi in April and my kids are adjusting to their schools well, although I don't like the year-round schooling we have in my district. To the point, my 8th grade daughter, who is a great kid (honors student etc), knowingly and intentionally helped a friend cheat. She was, I am sure, just trying to make a new friend--this is way out of character for her. That said, the behavior is obviously very wrong. The school sent home a paddling consent form. I did not even realize Mississippi still paddled. I am not necesarily anti-spanking, but it certainly was never the first resort in our house, and I never really thought about it at school (thought it was illegal). On the other hand, apparently my daughter did know that the clear penalty for cheating is licks, and I am a big believer in follow through, and of supporting the school. I don't know what to do. She is a good kid, but I don't want her to think that gets her around rule


My daughter (8) left the house without permission yesterday, and we had no idea where she was for three hours. She got in the car with her older cousin and went to a freinds house without asking me. When my husband and I found out, we went and got her. We discussed punishments, and decided that she deserved a spanking. I gave her seven swats on her clothed bottom with a paddle, that we only use for big time misbehaivors. Do you think we were too severe? This is only the second spanking she has gotten since she was six. I thought this meritted one, but was wondering everyone's opinion on whether we were to severe?
Oh Yeah! Her cousin will not be drving for the next month.
I spanked fairly regurally until she turned five, then the need went away. I try to only spank for big things. I thought this was a big thing
Thanks Texas Mommy, the only reason I used the paddle is I don't think its apropriate for my husband to spank at this age, and she has a tough hiney lol! I thought I could send a better message with the paddle


My daughter (8) left the house without permission yesterday, and we had no idea where she was for three hours. She got in the car with her older cousin and went to a freinds house without asking me. When my husband and I found out, we went and got her. We discussed punishments, and decided that she deserved a spanking. I gave her seven swats on her clothed bottom with a paddle, that we only use for big time misbehaivors. Do you think we were too severe? This is only the second spanking she has gotten since she was six. I thought this meritted one, but was wondering everyone's opinion on whether we were to severe?


Moving to my hometown State b/c of work & personal issues. My 6yr old daughter has serious behavioral issues & in school she's sometimes violent. She has ADHD & ODD. She's in Therapy & on meds. I am talking to the school board in the state we're movign to & they think that maybe reg. ed would work for her but would like to see her records/med recs. She has an IEP & is going to a behavioral classroom now. I downloaded the new school(hometown state) hand book & found they still use corporal punishment. I grew up with it, I got in trouble ONE time in 3rd grade, was spanked with a wooden paddle & NEVER got in trouble again. I'm thinking that my daughter having this done ONCE may help. Does anyone know if you agree to it, if you can change your mind later? Their handbook says this: For students in the lower grades, corporal punishment is limited to strikingthe student on the buttocks a maximum three times with the hand or with a woowoden paddle (18 "L x 3-6" W x 3/8" thick)


me and my hubby have been married for 11 years and we have triplet beautiful girls that r ten. my husband makes sure i dont get out of line.2 weeks ago i got in trouble by stealing forty$ from him and then lying. and then i got a parkig ticket and got caught drunk driving but was left with a warning. he took all my credit cards, my cell phone for three weeks my pager,my ipod and my car away for a week, and then spanked me. then he gave my corner time and the, but i have 2 questions, 1 was my punishment suitable and no mean comments, 2 one of my daughters walked in while i was getting a paddling, ihad no clothes on and was bent over chris, my husbands knee with a red bottom,i dont know wat 2 tell her she wont leave me alone .everyone besides our newborn and chris get spanked by chris,but my children dont no that should i tell her or not i like it that he makes sure i stay in line,so no rude commnts.also b4 we go to any store he gives me maitenence spanks dos anyone get those


If your son/daughter cussed, you would:
A.Ground him/her (how long?)
B.Spank him/her (with what?)
C.Wash his/her mouth out
D.Other (what would it be?)

If your son/daughter didn't do homework, you would:
A.Ground him/her (how long?)
B.Spank him/her (with what?)
C.Sit with him/her and make them finish it
D.Other

If your son/daughter hit you, you would:
A.Ground him/her (how long?)
B.Spank/hit back
C.Wait until his dad/mom got home (why?)
D.Other

If your son/daughter spanked his/her younger sibling, you would:
A.Ground him/her (how long?)
B.Let the younger sibling spank him/her (with what?)
C.Spank him/her yourself (with what?)
D.Other

How old is your son/daughter?:
A.12/13
B.14/15
C.16/17
D.18/19
Additional Details

1 hour ago
Would you ever spank your kids in public?:
A.Yes
B.No
C.I don't spank

How do you spank?:
A.Bare Bottom
B.Only underwear
C.On pants
D.Naked
E.I don't spank

What do you use for spanking?:
A.Switch
B.Paddle
C.Hair brush
D.Spoon
E.Hand
F.I don't spank


If your son/daughter cussed, you would:
A.Ground him/her (how long?)
B.Spank him/her (with what?)
C.Wash his/her mouth out
D.Other (what would it be?)

If your son/daughter didn't do homework, you would:
A.Ground him/her (how long?)
B.Spank him/her (with what?)
C.Sit with him/her and make them finish it
D.Other

If your son/daughter hit you, you would:
A.Ground him/her (how long?)
B.Spank/hit back
C.Wait until his dad/mom got home (why?)
D.Other

If your son/daughter spanked his/her younger sibling, you would:
A.Ground him/her (how long?)
B.Let the younger sibling spank him/her (with what?)
C.Spank him/her yourself (with what?)
D.Other

How old is your son/daughter?:
A.12/13
B.14/15
C.16/17
D.18/19
Additional Details

1 hour ago
Would you ever spank your kids in public?:
A.Yes
B.No
C.I don't spank

How do you spank?:
A.Bare Bottom
B.Only underwear
C.On pants
D.Naked
E.I don't spank

What do you use for spanking?:
A.Switch
B.Paddle
C.Hair brush
D.Spoon
E.Hand
F.I don't spank


We moved to this small district in Texas about a year ago, and although a few of the kid's friends have mentioned being "popped" at school, I thought they just meant they were lectured, I had no idea they were being spanked.

My daughter is 15 and at her jr high they have a rule that more than 3 tardy's to any one class is a trip to the principal. She has a hard time because her locker is very far away from this class. She went to the principal who said that since I (her parent) hadn't signed the corporal punishment slip that they couldn't paddle her, so instead they gave her ISS (in-school suspension) for Monday and Tuesday of this week. The only way out of it was for me to sign the slip (they called me and then sent one home wiht her on Monday).

My daughter would rather take the paddling, and I'm nervous about that. I was paddled in jr high and it was humuliating and painful. Should I really let her make that choice? Opinions please.
Unfortunately it is legal in our school district. I have no idea why, but it is. :(
I also wanted to add that I don't have a problem with spanking itself. I spanked my kids when they were small. However I'm not so sure about the school doing it. The principal did say that the parent can go in and spank the child as well (I assume that means they lend you their paddle and you spank them in front of the principal?) I'd be more for that than the principal doing it himself. I think my daughter doesn't see it as a big deal and that's why she says that's what she wants, but I would hate to think that she has to hold in the humiliation the rest of her life. I really don't know what I should do. Maybe if the school does it, it makes more of an impact? Or I should go to the school and paddle her myself? Perhaps that would be too embarrassing. I do think she deserves something as she has been warned over and over about tardies, she could come in earlier and she tends to be chatty. Oh well. Thank you for any and all advice. I do appreciate it.


My daughter has been acting like a baby (shez 12) and she seems to not care for spankings. Spankings don't hurt anymore. So I went out today and bought her some un-removable diapers. Of course I could take them off but this is a lesson she needs to learn. Before I put them on her, I spanked her with a paddle and told her that this was for her own good. I took away her pants and her underware and put on the diapers. Then I sat her in a corner in the living room. What she did to do this was that: she has been cursing and threating people at school. I have tried this punishment for a week so far and it seems to be working. I haven't had to spank her yet. I threw away her underware to show her I meant buisness. And now she if forced by me and her father to ware them or she'll get a good swat on the butt. Do you think this is a fair punishment? She gets home, puts on a different diaper and eats. This punishment will last 1 more week.


She was not arrested because I caught her. She says it is no big deal I say it is. We agreed to let you all arbitrate. If I had my way she'd be upended and get paddled. She says there should be no punishment because it is just no big deal to smoke a little reefer and anyway I did it when I was a kid. (So I KNOW how bad it is folks).

So what is the appropriate punishment if any in this case? You decide.


I have a 2 year old daughter Very Very Active! I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was a kid, and she is just like me. So I am assuming she has it too, no big deal. Well I don't like to spank her, don't get me wrong I spank her when she needs it, but When possible I perfer time out, or talking to her!or different types, EX: she pours a drink on the floor, she cleans it. Well everytime I call my mother-inlaw , (when she has her) and ask her how she was, she gives me a whole list of things she has done. How do I make her realize, She is ADHA and is not going to be as good as the other kid, but there are ways to handle the behavior. EX: She does have a biting problem, well she told me she bit 2 kids, she put her in the corner, 2nd time whip her, and told her if she did it again she was getting out the paddle. That really upset me. Whiping her is fine, but I would really like her to not use a paddle. Am I crazy, How do I tell my mom and her I want us all to usethe same methods of punishment
Also I don't want to make any one mad ( you know parents... they will say Ohh I know how to punish kids I raised 3 of them) I want them to take me serious and not go behind my back!
Well the things is how do I talk to her, I tried earlier and she made me feel like i was crazy!
It's not my mom, my mom I have no problem with,,,, it's the motherin law .. she always thinks she knows better... and to who said don't go around telling people she has adhd... I'm not , I just don't want her to be whiped, I was adhad and that only made things worse.
PEOPLE she doesn't have bad behavior, She is a good child, just very very active she can't be still which lead to trouble, I know how to deal with it, others don't.


She is 12 and was told the next time she came home late and worried me she was going to get a good spanking. She was last spaked about two years ago. Across my knee on the panties with my hand. Should I use a paddle or brush now? I have tried other punishments but the only thing that has ever worked with her is a good pantie warming. I was spanked to the late teens and looking back it did me alot of good. I am a singel mom and my Mom says that if I dont spank her she will. Is it best to still put her across my knee,,,or is there a better way. I heard her tell her girl friend I would never spank her,,,I wonder what she will say the next time she talks to that friend. Loving but strict Mom,,,inb